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13 Lessons I Learnt In The Past Year

I recently listened to Jay Shetty's birthday special podcast from last year. The Podcast definitely had some beautiful tips and insights but more importantly he urged the audience to reflect on their own lessons too. Though, I am already almost a couple months late for the B'day introspection, I felt that the idea was still worth it. 

{Disclaimer: None of the following are purely my ideas but simply the advices and lessons I read, heard, and learnt in the past year) 

So, here are my 13 lessons from the past year - 

1. Celebrate yourself. Sometimes, you really need to be your own cheerleader and morale booster. No one else is responsible for your happiness but you yourself are. Finally, after four years had a genuinely happy and warm birthday on my 21st. Had been creating greeting cards for my friends this year, just felt like creating something for myself and mom too.

   My Birthday card to self on my 21st birthday

2. Not everyone will understand your journey, but that's OK too. Don't judge. They don't have to understand and you don't have to change.

3. Power lies in taking responsibility. Even if they had a share in the blame, blaming won't help. Stay grateful for what went well, learn and move on.

4. Detachment is a much needed ingredient for happiness as you grow old. I finally saw reason why I need to genuinely learn to be a little moderate and take time before I get overly attached. 

5. There are times, we can see the truth but refuse to believe it. Acceptance is sometimes the only way to avoid more pain in the long run. We don't get to choose who we fall in love with, but we must accept and try our best to move on once we understand it isn't meant to be.

6. It's important to voice your disagreements and concerns peacefully (rather than bottling up and then blasting). 

7. Past is a dangerous place to seek happiness. 

   Quote © Dalai Lama's Cat (The Art of Purring)

8. Don't lose yourself or the courage to dream. Be patient. Life will test you, you'll feel like you aren't good enough but keep moving, keep trying. Keep faith. Learn and grow; but don't change. Be unapologetically yourself.

9. When you make choices, consequences become your natural responsibility. 

10. [Self Awareness] 3 things that help me thrive - Clarity, Deadlines and Spirituality. Meditation and exercise naturally help me feel better. So, yes I am trying to take time for them this year too. 

11. You don't have to be good at everything. You may be terrible at some things but enjoy them. That's ok, it's always worth a try if you really want to. What others think is none of your business.

"What others think is none of your business."  I don't know who said it originally but heard it from him and absolutely loved the statement.

12. You won't always be there for people you love even though you may genuinely wish to. We all have our own struggles. Sometimes, we do get so engrossed in our life that we genuinely don't have the time and energy to take care of someone else despite how much we wish we could, and how much we care. It's ok too. Be kind on yourself too. 

13. No one should have to be your stepping stone to move on. Just because you are hurt doesn't mean you hurt others on the way. Heal yourself or you'll invariably burden the next person with your heavy baggage.

Lastly, not really a new lesson but a learning re-enforced once again. Choose your friends wisely and keep them close. Love deeply and let your loved ones know they are loved. 

Loads of love and peace to anyone who's reading it.♥️♥️♥️

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